Hey guys I am doing Atozblogging challenge2022. Throughout the month of April I will be writing a post everyday on mental health and issues. Hope you enjoy it.
“No matter what I do he will pop up in my head out of nowhere. I tried everything, from diverting my mind to relocating but the issue remains unchanged. As if this is the only person who can give me relief.”
These are the words someone shared on their facebook wall a couple of months back. I was very intrigued reading it. And I read the entire article. It was about a person who was obsessed with another person. The situation was so bad that the person had lost his sanity obsessing about the other person. I was wondering why are people obsessed? I soon got my answers.
Obsession occurs out of emotional deprivation. When someone doesn’t get what one seeks from the person they want it so badly from, they start stalking, fantasizing and even idealizing. The obsession can become a nightmare if not kept in check. We all fanaticize and idealize our favourite heroes. It’s pretty common trait among all human beings. However, the problem arises when things get out of control.
Someone can idealize a person so much that their life revolves around that person day and night. They forget everything else and are completely into that person. Eating them breathing them completely. It’s unhealthy habit. People can even start romanticizing their obsession and become a stalker. These habits can arise out of plain obsession or even due to some wrong done to them. In that case this can be very dangerous. Obsession always has a thin line between love and hate. And tragically the person himself isn’t aware when the line is crossed.
Yearning for someone you love is always good. You show that you miss the person’s presence in your life and want them back. However, when this yearning becomes obsession it needs to be taken care of. Sending unlimited text messages, or phone calls, or blowing up their social media are all unhealthy forms of obsession. One must realize the outcome of such behaviour and control their actions. Otherwise there are many scenarios when the person ruins their life and social status because of their actions. Frankly, one cannot hide their feelings even if they want to in these scenarios. Therefore, it is very important to act maturely and take responsibility of their actions.
One of my friend was a victim of obsessive lover. They had a short time affair with no strings attached. They had already made it clear about it before entering the relationship. When my friend called it off her boyfriend wouldn’t take no for an answer. He started stalking her and pressurizing her to return to him. Initially, my friend was patient with him but soon she realized that it was going out of hands. She was already engaged to another guy by that time. So she started to avoid him completely. This triggered her boyfriend and he became overly obsessed with her. He even turned violent and abused her. In the end, my friend had to take help of the police. It was a nightmare for her that finally ended.
Yearning for the person you love shows you miss that person and want that person back in life as soon as possible. That’s pure love and should always be reciprocated by that lover.